Monday, July 16, 2007

Yours, mine, ours

So I've got to get this out of my head.

I was riding home today from working out and the question popped in my head.  Why is it, when couples get their paychecks they put them in separate accounts or they keep track of every penny of "their" money is spent?  See, what made me think of this is this, Kent is the full time bread winner in this family.  We decided that once we got married he would be.  I was going to college full time trying to finish that so we could then start a family.  To which we did.  So he has always been the one making all the money.  I help monetarily, rarely.  I do surveys for a company dealing with new products coming out and I also do a semi-annual consignment sale with the kids' clothes.  All of which bring in no more than $1200 a year.  When I do get the extra money I squirrel it away for vacations or Christmas gifts or to take Kent out on a date, instead of him always taking me out.  I guess it's a difference of opinions or cultures or how one was raised.  But to me, if you are married then all money belongs to both you.  Right?  Or am I just living in a fantasy world?  Granted here, I hate spending Kent's money.  Especially when I am buying him something, be it for Christmas or his birthday.  I hate doing it.  To me, it's like he worked to bring home that money just so I could turn around and give it back to him in a gift.  Am I crazy for feeling that way?  But then Kent's argument back to me is this, I stay home and raise the kids.  I cook, clean, do laundry, etc., all so when he comes home he doesn't have to and we can spend that time as a family.  Doing what we want.  Unlike some couples who work all day, come home have to cook, clean, do laundry and then go to bed.  All just to get up the next day and do it again.  Leaving little time to just be a family.  So in that respect I am doing something that is priceless.  Giving my family the ability to be a family a lot of the instead of just some of the time.  I'm blessed in that sense.  Not to mention how much we are saving in childcare.  I just hate the fact that I can't do more.  I just wish sometimes that I could just helpKent carry that burden of being the sole bread winner. Instead of feeling like all I do is eat the bread.

1 comment:

smithfkjs said...

Don't worry, I didn't go to work until Jeff and Scott were older. (and I might add I wish I hadn't) Marriage is a parternship and believe me what you do is just as important as what Kent does (if not more) just doesn't pay as much...LOL!!

Love Aunt KK